Split Pea Soup - Slow Cooker

Jul. 26th, 2017 07:28 pm
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Splitpea soup

You can set this recipe on high to have it done in less than four hours or set it on low and let it simmer for around 8 hours while you’re away at work. It will be the best smell you’ve ever walked into. My husband loves walking into the home when split pea soup is for dinner.



Ingredients

1 (16 ounce bag) green split peas, rinsed well and drained
2 carrots, peeled and chopped small
1 small finely chopped white or yellow onion
1 tablespoon minced garlic
1/3 cup chopped fresh Italian (flat leaf) parsley
1/2 teaspoon thyme
1 bay leaf
1 teaspoon salt, plus additional as needed
Fresh ground pepper, to taste
1 cup chopped Thorn Apple Valley ham
4-6 cups low-sodium Swanson chicken broth (or more, as needed), divided



Directions

Layer the ingredients in the order listed in a slow cooker. Add about 4 cups of chicken broth, or just enough to cover ingredients. Reserve remaining chicken broth for later if needed to make it creamier. Cover and cook on HIGH for 4 hours.

Stir occasionally during cooking time. Use a spoon to stir the soup and lightly mash some of the peas against the side of the slow cooker. Stir until creamy, adding more broth, if needed, to reach desired consistency. Taste and season with additional salt and pepper, as needed.
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Title: Aftershock
Fandom: Agents of SHIELD
Rating: G
Words: 100
Characters/Pairings: Leo Fitz/Framework!Grant
Warnings/Content: Angst, drinking, forgiveness
Notes: For [community profile] multifandomdrabble 2017.

Summary: Fitz can't leave Grant standing on the doorstep in the rain. (Set post S4 finale, but before that future scene in the diner.)


Also at the Archive

Aftershock )

Title: Date Night
Fandom: Captain America
Rating: G
Words: 100
Characters/Pairings: Steve Rogers/Sam Wilson
Warnings/Content: Flirting, Sam showing off, Steve's notebook of modern facts
Notes: For [community profile] multifandomdrabble 2017.

Summary: Sam knows he's being ogled.

Also at the Archive

Date Night )

Title: Air Show
Fandom: MCU
Rating: Teen
Words: 100
Characters/Pairings: Steve/Bucky/Sam/Natasha
Warnings/Content:
Notes: For [community profile] multifandomdrabble 2017.

Summary: After they've found Bucky, they need some time to hide out and recover. (Set after Winter Soldier, on the road trip that should have been.)

Also at the Archive

Air Show )

Season 2 re-watch

Jul. 26th, 2017 07:43 pm
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When you think we should start watching season 2? I'm not sure when it will be readily available for most viewers, but hopefully if we begin re-watching sometime this fall we'll have spaced it out a bit to help curb the hiatus blues. Let me know what you prefer in the poll below or feel free to comment with suggestions.


Poll #18614 Season 2
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 1


when to start?

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August
1 (100.0%)

September
0 (0.0%)

October
0 (0.0%)

November
0 (0.0%)




Speaking of season 3, here's a new trailer that showed at ComicCon- spoilers for season 2.

Things read, watched and heard

Jul. 27th, 2017 11:05 am
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Recently read
The Thief by Megan Whalen Turner. I've seen the series mentioned all over the place, so I went in expecting to enjoy it more than I did (it's not really my genre). Some pivotal plot developments happened offscreen in a way I found frustrating, and the unreliable narrator thing didn't work for me, but mostly I felt it (necessarily) didn't have strong enough relationships for me to care very much.

Every Day and Another Day by David Levithan. The first is about a 16yo person who jumps into a different 16yo body each day, spending midnight to midnight in their host's life before moving on to the next one. And then they fall in love, and it all gets complicated. I enjoyed this -- it felt tropey in an interesting way, and I liked how it dealt with gender. (Warning for unexpected fat-shaming, though.) The second is a remix -- the same story from the fallen-in-love-with girl's POV. It was fine? There's a lot of repetition between the two, and I wanted the ending of Another Day to give me more.

Reading next
Probably the new Natasha Pulley, The Bedlam Stacks. Plus mergatrude has been luring me with Combeferre/Enjolras/Grantaire Les Mis recs.

Recently watched Kdramas
Finished Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok Joo. The last six episodes were pure candyfloss and sparkles, and I enjoyed them tremendously (and hardly cried at all!). Almost nothing happened! (There was half an episode dedicated to the trauma of having a pimple on one's nose, and resulting shenanigans.) This show has leapt into my top 10 Kdramas.

Still watching Strong Woman Do Bong Soon, which is tonally ALL OVER THE PLACE, and rewatching Moonlight Drawn By Clouds. Just started Capital Scandal (2007), set in the 1930s during the Japanese occupation. So far it's very confusing, but first episodes are often like that.

Other TV
We're a few episodes into You Me Her, a Netflix show about a m/f married couple who mutually (and rather awkwardly) fall in love with a female escort. It's a little cringey in the way that's currently fashionable for TV light-dramas, but I'm enjoying it despite that. The guy is played by Amy Poehler's brother.

Films
The NZ film festival is about to start. I've bought tickets for:
- a Turkish documentary about the cats of Istanbul
- an Irish documentary about the Voyager spacecraft
- a South Korean drama set in France, called Claire's Camera (no relation to Claire's Hat, as far as I know)
- a South Korean drama set (I presume) in Korea, called Yourself and Yours
- a Thai drama about an architect and an elephant, called Pop Aye
- a French drama starring Catherine Deneuve, called The Midwife.

That should help boost my USA vs Other Countries film ratio! I may randomly try to go to other things during the day, depending on weather, availability and organisational oomph.

Also planning to see The Big Sick, Baby Driver, and possibly maybe Atomic Blonde and The Hitman's Bodyguard, if I decide I need some silly action in my life.

Podcasts
Still working our way through NPR's Invisibilia and enjoying it very much. Still keeping up with Fansplaining.

layers and layers

Jul. 26th, 2017 06:30 pm
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If you want to understand what is going on in DC, you have to think of it as a layer cake, one of those many-layer tortes, or maybe as layers of rock in geological strata, from sedimentary stuff at the bottom of a lake and igneous and metamorphic rock shoving up and transforming because of heat and pressure, with magma at the bottom of it all, or at the center, depending on the diagram you learned from.

What am I talking about? Stuff where Trump opens his mouth and sick toads fall out and sit on the sidewalk, blinking and vomiting. Ugly sick bloated toads, like the speech to the Boy Scouts and the outrageous dismissal of all transgender military personnel.

(My apologies to all truly healthy toads throughout the country, living their lives peaceably, eating flies and mosquitos and staying far from politics.)

I know these things are serious. I know. The president is trampling on people's value, on people's lives, in every direction, cynically and carelessly. But you cannot take them as the only thing that is happening. Horrible as they are, they are only the poisoned icing on the cake, the noxious smoke from the volcano, the peeling top layer of slate. They are *meant* to get you mad. They are *designed* to keep you upset.

Why? So you won't pay attention to what's going on behind the scenes, down there in the strata. Down there, the separation of church and state is being eroded. Women's right to have a say about how their own bodies are treated is being chipped away. The little tiny things we do not see that have huge effects, things that pile up, like permission to get past environmental checks before running oil and gas pipelines near drinking water. The elimination of much of the Congressional Budget Office staff because they vetoed Trumpnocare. I could go on and on. Often I do, and you see it here; sometimes I don't even put it here because it gets me that upset.

I am not saying not to be upset. It is upsetting. Transpeople should be able to serve in the military without comment. To say otherwise is a violation of equal rights under the law. Boy Scouts (and Girl Scouts and other young people's groups) should not have to listen to insane political harangues, should not be put into that arena. National monuments, parks and seashores should stay untouched by developers, drillers, exploiters.

But yelling at Trump, writing to him, even if it feels good to you, won't make a difference. He does not give a flying fuck about any of us -- why would he care about how any subset of us is affected? He thinks health care costs $12 a month. He probably thinks someone who is transgender changes their clothes on a train, or in transit. There is no limit to his lack of understanding and his lack of caring about anything he doesn't understand.

Keep your eyes on the small stuff, the bits and pieces that aren't on page one. Look for what's on page six or the back of a section, with a smaller headline (or in places like The Hill or Politico or other politically based newsletters. Pick one or two areas that interest you, and follow what is going on with them.

And then write your Senators and Congresspeople about them -- on their own email system. (yes, here is that contact list again.) They cannot ignore mail from their own constituents for long. If the time is short, phone and ask to talk to a staff person, instead of leaving a message. Tell them what you think, what you want, briefly and to the point. Tell them you're outraged, when you are. Tell them what you think of what Trump is doing, and (if your rep or Senator is Republican) how can any thinking person possibly agree or support this, because (up to three good reasons). And then, "Thank you for hearing me as a constituent", and give them your name as it is on the voter rolls so they can look it up. Once a week. Pick one thing a week. The staffers should start recognizing your name, your voice.

And keep an eye on the vulnerable Republican seats, House and Senate, the ones that can be overturned in the next election. Support the people running in the primaries to oppose the heartless idiots in office.

Do not be taken in by the sparkly floor show with the mouthy MC. Keep your eyes on what's happening behind the curtain, up in the lighting gallery, over in the wings. That's where things are being done. Look for possible trades and swaps -- Reps and Senators voting for things they should not vote for -- and ask them why they are making such poor, harmful choices? Who benefits from these choices? Follow the money, but also follow the influence. Who's being bought and sold here?

I trust you, all of you. I don't know you that well, but I trust you to do the right thing insofar as you know what it is, and to ask good questions when it isn't obvious. Go find the molten lava under the rock and raise hell. Go and comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable, because every one of us matters.

Short rows! Or, k-r has opinions.

Jul. 26th, 2017 05:29 pm
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So I am currently working on the Wonder Woman wrap (http://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/wonder-woman-wrap) that's been making the rounds. It's a solidly written pattern. I do freely admit that I am only partially using the pattern; making substitutions and changes is my prerogative and also something that I do on most projects because I can't work with fingering and thus have to make changes to almost any pattern.*

It's also fairly easy, relying on garter, M1, and kfb for most of the shaping. The points of the Ws are made by double decrease. However, it does use short rows. This is, apparently, a reason many people I know do not want to make it.

This is like my at least fifth short row project in a year. I really love short rows. I was, thus, exceptionally confused a couple months ago when someone at the knitting table said, "I don't do short rows. They're difficult and fiddly and I don't like them."

So I poked at them to explain this. And this is when I discovered that this person was under the assumption that there's only one technique for short rows. Guys, here is where I admit: every person I know who likes short rows has their own personal favorite technique. But most people who have met short rows and run away screaming have never said, "I hate this technique, but maybe I won't hate another technique." Mostly because there are like five different ways to do it, but since they evolved in different places, not everyone's heard of them. So, this is me, giving resources in case you want to knit the above project (or a different one) and you just really cannot bring yourself to like short rows.

I loathe wrap and turn with every fiber of my being. It doesn't work for me. It just doesn't. My first couple projects used the yarnover technique. Unfortunately, this doesn't work for all projects. So the first project I made that used wrap and turn I dropped in a heap and said, "NOPE" at very loudly. And then I got a book from the library and studied all the different options to try and figure out what might work for my brain.

And when I found one that worked for me, I hung out at the knitting table, checked my phone a couple dozen times to make sure I was doing it right, and clung to it like it was the best thing ever. Now, I use that particular technique any time there's a short row project I'm doing. It saves my sanity. (It also means I've never had to use safety pins in my work; there was a project where I may have, in frustration, snarled out the words who the hell thought that the Japanese short row technique was the fastest technique on the planet and or their favorite. However, there are people who do so, and this is fine. [When I am not being introduced to new and fun ways to torture my brain mid-project setup. I am not at my best mid-project setup.])

For me, German short rows are my very favorite thing. This is a good tutorial for them: http://www.lamaisonrililie.com/knittingtherapy/german-short-rows

This is a good instruction for wrap and turn: http://knotions.com/techniques/how-to-knit-short-rows/

This is a free class by the author whose book saved my sanity: https://www.craftsy.com/knitting/classes/short-rows/35255

And this is the book in question: https://www.amazon.com/Short-Row-Knits-Workshop-Learn-as-You-Knit/dp/0804186340/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

As an important note, for patterns like the Wonder Woman wrap, where they use w&t, you knit the stitch you're supposed to wrap, flip around to the other side, and do the german short row technique on that side.

So, what's your opinion on short rows? Or Wonder Woman? Or both? :)


*This is, I note, not a "I don't like fingering" but "I have two projects in fingering right now, and even on size five or six needles (let's not talk about the idiocy of the size 4 project), it still makes my poor, abused hands [thank you chronic illnesses] make me nauseated and need more pain meds." But some yarn is really pretty, so I do about three projects a year in fingering and the rest in medium, chunky, or bulky yarns.
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Title: Trust – Part 8
Part 7 – Conferring - http://charisstoma.dreamwidth.org/1310597.html
Author: charisstoma
Word count: 758

“So after due consideration, we recommend you take Demonology 601. Ezz has indicated that he will cover the tuition for you.”

The Liaison, the demon liaison, sat in the chair with his mate, the human Liaison whose name turned out to be Lovell, standing behind him. Xand was discretely seated behind the desk, she noticed and Lovell seemed to be hiding behind him. She could imagine what both of them were hiding, the room had a heated sexual scent to it.

“I’m not here to take classes, I’ve special status to do research,” she argued. “I’m a writer.”

“We’re aware of this. Also of the genre of the books you write and the research you are doing. Consider this, your taking this class will possibly mesh well with your writing, if not the book you are currently working on then the next. It will help you understand the relationship between demons and their mates.”

She barely restrained herself from snorting. “Demonology 601 is listed as Demonology Relationships. I looked up the class and read the class description but can’t find its location. I think Ezzy is trying to derail my current writing project’s theme.”

Xand seemed to grin, but all he did was nod his head, “that is of course possible. It is not un-understandable that he would like you focused on him as his mate and your future together. This is just a suggestion, a strong suggestion, that you talk with him about your concerns.”

She sighed and glanced at her new watch, Ezz had called it a chronometer, that was a gift from him. The dial color was turning pink.

“Ah, I see that you have an engagement,” there was a definite grin this time. Love and I are available to answer any of your questions if there’s any need. The Liaison’s Office’s website, and email address is listed on the card you were given. Even if Love and I are on the Demon Plane those contacts will reach us.”

“Wait. You’re telling me that the internet connects to the Demon Plane also?” She was astonished and an idea occurred to her.

“Yes?” Love was the one to answer her.

An evil grin spread across her lips. Oh the possibilities. “Okay. The Demonology class is on the Demon Plane, isn’t it.”

Xand nodded.

“Great,” she rose. Her, “Thank You,” was uttered as she hurriedly left.

“Think we did a good thing telling her that?”

Xand grinned up at him and pulled him down and there was the sound of cloth tearing, settling him and himself right where he wanted them. His Love would complain later and he’d explain once again that he’d heard how the Inuit had a useful idea in pants which allowed them to squat to defecate without removing their pants.
~~~~

“So,” she entered the courtyard to find Ezz seated waiting for her and reading something on his computer tablet. “I learned something just now. The Demon Plane has internet access.”

Ezz smiled and turned his tablet so she could see the screen. Whatever it was, looked official.

“Work?”

“Yes. What evil thought have you had that has you grinning at me?”

“Well, they suggested a class that they said you’d be willing to pay for me to take. Surprisingly I couldn’t locate where that class is supposed to be held. There’s no building like that on this campus. My what an innocent face you have right now.”

“It’s only held on Wednesdays and Fridays,” Ezz shrugged. “You could stay over with me on those days and maybe if you just happened to be interested, the weekends too. I could bring you back on Mondays before I go to work and pick you up late Tuesday afternoons. We could go out to eat and then to my place.”

“Ah, but I read the class description and there’s a section that’s available online. I might have to take the exams on campus but otherwise I could stay right here on this plane and take the class.”

A low growl of annoyance caused her to smile. “I want to try that kissing thing again. It was quite enjoyable,” and laughed when he moved her so swiftly onto his lap with her legs straddling his lap.

Sometime later, “Tease. You’re not wearing panties under your dress.”

“Oh, I’m so sorry. Should we stop?”

“You a virgin?”

“Of course.”

She grinned and smothered his pained growl with her lips knowing that he’d not try to enter ‘that’ portal and cause their first time together to be painful.

wednesday reads 'n things

Jul. 26th, 2017 04:04 pm
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What I've recently finished reading:

Text: Empowered: Agent (Empowered, #1) by Dale Ivan Smith, which so far is the best Instafreebie book I've tried (a rather low bar). The world-building is simple but fun; it's not just that Empowered people (that is, people with superhero-type powers) exist, but it's also an alternate history - one in which Richard Nixon prevented a nuclear war from escalating into global destruction "after Washington DC had been destroyed by a Soviet nuke fired from Cuba." (So I guess Kennedy didn't stop the Soviets...) This only shows up incidentally, at least in this book, but I am charmed by Nixon being considered a hero in this universe.

Mat is a good character, an interesting woman with a skill - manipulating growing plants - that is clearly much more useful (and lethal) than anyone gives her credit for. The Hero Council choice of "join us if we can use you, otherwise you must swear to never use your power" seems rather terrible to me, a bit of shoddy world-building but I guess it's needed for the plot. Her choices and actions are reasonable, especially as circumstances paint her into a corner. I like that she has a family she cares about, and I also like the lack of romance (though I suspect one is building).

The writing is okay, not great, though it's mostly free of typos and technically adequate. There are few obvious errors (such as a character being identified by name before Mat would actually know her name) but also few flashes of brilliance. Mostly it's just somewhat flat. I didn't feel particularly pulled along or emotionally invested, and this, plus uneven pacing toward the end, contributed to a general feeling of anticlimax.

Audio: Plus One by Elizabeth Fama, which was a SYNC offering, and surprisingly enjoyable and novel for dystopian YA. This is set in an alternate future in which the Spanish Flu pandemic of 1918 led to the need for split-shift staffing of hospitals, a day set and a night set of doctors and nurses, which in turn proved so efficient that the division between day workers and night workers was expanded to all parts of life, formalized and codified and enforced by law. But as daylight living is more natural and presumably more enjoyable, gradually the night people ("Smudges") became stereotyped as stupid, undesirable, lesser than the day people ("Rays") - and it took me until about 3/4 through the book to realize this was a civil rights allegory.

Yes, there is some suspension of disbelief required, but no more than, say, teenagers fighting to the death broadcast on television, or a society discarding all but a hundred selected novels, songs, and films. And what makes this an actually good book is that the plot is legitimately interesting and complex, and goes in unexpected (but foreshadowed) ways. There is a romance, which is somewhat cutesy and predictable, but at least it's not a love triangle - and, speaking of YA tropes, though this is in first person it is in PAST TENSE THANK GOD.

I liked the ending, which is not pat or universally happy, and which leaves a lot of things open-ended for a sequel (or for fanfiction). I would like to have seen a more explicitly "fight the system" plot, with Sol and the other characters actively working to bring the system down - maybe this will be in a subsequent book? Finally, I ship Sol/Gigi la la la and will be nominating this for Yuletide.

The audio version also includes "Noma Girl", a prequel short story which is also available free online. It was a nice fleshing-out of incidents only alluded to in the novel, but there's no new worldbuilding or anything unexpected here. I did like the more sympathetic view of Gigi. I don't think it will make sense if you haven't read the novel.

Webcomic: For some reason I followed a link (from Goodreads, maybe?) to The Less Than Epic Adventures of TJ and Amal by E. K. Weaver, which I'd vaguely heard of through osmosis but really didn't know anything about (I didn't realize it was a comic, for one; for some reason I thought it had to do with lesbians) and devoured it over the course of four or five days. It's a gay (m/m, and has some nsfw) roadtrip story in which the title characters get to know each other and find themselves (well, sort of). If you haven't read it, I recommend it! There is a tiny fandom, and I believe the comic was originally posted on LJ as a WIP.

What I'm reading now: Cibola Burn, the fourth Expanse book. So far I'm about 25% in and enjoying it more than the previous book, Abaddon's Gate. Also, wow, apparently all minor characters are gay in this universe, or at least every throwaway line about people being married refers to a same-sex relationship.

What I'm reading next: Now that I'm recommitted to this book series, I've got the next two on my phone.

What I've just finished watching:

Movie: I finally watched Hidden Figures, and it was every bit as awesome as I'd hoped. ♥ My mother was a chemist for the FDA before and during this era, and I realized that at least she had the advantage of being white (though she had the disadvantage of being Jewish). I can't imagine what it must have been like to have both racism and sexism barriers looming so hugely in one's life.

TV: We have finished S2 of The Expanse! I am still a little weirded out by the timelines of book series and show being off from each other. I also thought the Ganymede plot was done better by the show, but the Avasarala and Bobbie plot was done better in the books.

What I'm watching next: Nothing for a while, because on Saturday we are headed out for a week of backpacking in the wilderness and so we might as well hold off on starting anything new. I'm trying to talk B into getting a short-term subscription to HBO Now via Amazon Prime so we can watch Game of Thrones. (His objections are that a, he hates WIPs even more than I do and wants to be able to watch every day or every other day rather than waiting a week between episodes, and b, he is sure they will make it hard for us to cancel after a month or two.)

In the meantime, [community profile] remixrevival has signups through Sunday, and [community profile] crossovering has extended signups through Sunday, so if either of these interest you, you have a few more days to join up!
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What, it's not posted yet? You cuties are giving me the honor? Aww, you shouldn't have.

Are you ready to PUMP PUNISHMENT?!? )

Book-a-day: Day Two

Jul. 27th, 2017 12:30 am
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2. Best bargain


From TASCHEN

The Little Book of Wonder Woman is a small-format 2015 book by TASCHEN about 'the Amazing Amazon: The spirit of truth in the DC Universe'. It is in three languages, English, French and German, and has pictures from the 1940s to nowadays, and lots of information on the story genesis and art trivia related to WW's pop cultural relevance to the fight for gender equality, and peace, and love, and justice. Very pretty. And a steal. I think I grabbed it for less than 5 euros. I really appreciate the 'graphic art through the ages' concept of it. I love books on art, and books on art with a retrospective angle in particular, so it's great to see the evolution of pop culture images, comic book drawing style, colour scheme, fashion & design.
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"At the canny request of Executive Editor Mike Carlin, G2 expands its mandate and studies the lives and time of some of the other characters who inhabited the DC Universe over the same years as our two stars." - John Byrne

Read more... )

Help me turn away from the awful?

Jul. 26th, 2017 04:58 pm
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Ugh, y'all, I am having one of those days where just keeping my eyes open and witnessing the awfulness of my nation's government is making me feel bleak and wrung-out and helpless. And I keep opening FB and Twitter in adjacent tabs, and then after reading for a while realizing that reading them is not actually helping anyone or anything (me included) and closing them, and then a few minutes later opening them again without even thinking about it, which says something about my social media habits that I do not like. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh.

I miss having a sense of active involvement in fandom. I have a few hours ahead of me with no kid to mind, and I obviously need to stop poking at social media (it's the emotional-intellectual equivalent of just eating endless bags of potato chips -- hours go by and then I feel sick to my stomach), and I know that once upon a time I would have seized on this time as an opportunity to make something for y'all, and I miss that. But I'm not embedded in any particular universes right now, and I feel tapped-out and devoid of ideas.

Read any good books lately, especially fiction or nonfiction that left you feeling lifted-up instead of dragged-down?

For those of you who are actively fannish, what are the things that are bringing you joy?

follow-ups

Jul. 26th, 2017 04:53 pm
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1. Re coffee ice cream: Kineticatrue was in western NY recently, just after I wrote about coffee ice cream, and she brought me back two half-gallon tubs of Perry's Ice Cream, the brand I grew up with. One of them is Coldbrew and Cream -- stripes of good coffee and vanilla -- and the other is something like Bittersweet Sinphony -- espresso ice cream with dark chocolate chips in it. That one is more or less the precursor of my favorite Ben & Jerry's, Coffee Coffee Buzz Buzz Buzz. Yum! Thank you!

2. Sometimes not doing research for a long time because of the cost of travel, and health issues, pays off.

When I started looking for information on Ebenezer Allan, in particular some information on his correspondence with Gen. Haldemand in Quebec, I stumbled across the Michigan Historical Society's annual publications from the late 1800s -- which specialize in the history of the Great Lakes region. And they have published in four volumes Haldemand's correspondence since he was assigned to this region (he had previously been in Florida, I'm sure I don't know why) from 1776 to about 1790. And it's all scanned in online now.

I have the links so I can read it on computer, but that's kind of tedious when it's 1800 pages or so -- and I want to know more about the context. So I am downloading the volumes, one at a time, to my Kindle, reading and making bookmarks; when I'm done, I can go back to the online version (which does not have transcription errors) and copy/paste or type the relevant passages with the bibliographic data (which doesn't come through completely on the Kindle).

Where I'm reading, at the moment, Haldemand has arrived, and is telling the officers running various forts that they are spending way too much money and they have to cut back, and can't the soldiers live on venison and fish they catch from the lakes? I have already read a later letter back to him from Brigadier MacLean, who ran Fort Niagara, about the problems of running out of treaty-specified gifts to Indians of various tribes -- they are supposed to get trousers and he only has shirts, and has had to borrow some from the men, which is not right, and even get some from Fort Erie -- and as I read it I can see MacLean gritting his teeth and trying not to scream because he's writing his boss -- but it comes across at times as *massively bitchy* in the best understated British sense of it. One of the references I already have is a letter of MacLean's to a friend (filed under Scottish Immigrant Papers in the Archives of Ontario) where he lets his hair down and his ire out of the bag and says exactly what he thinks of what's going on when Haldemand did not send the troops to back up the ones retreating and how angry and disappointed everyone was: "The Indians say, "The king has a fool for a general." I cannot disagree."

This is going to be *fun*.

ETA: The other places this info is available is in Michigan and in Quebec, neither of them near enough for convenient research, certainly not for the time to read all 1800 pages. So this is truly a gift.

What I'm Doing Wednesday

Jul. 26th, 2017 02:43 pm
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books Christie, Arendt )

grandma extreme old age is hard )

yarning
roses in progressstatue of liberty amigurumiThe garland is about 40 inches (1m) long, with 5 segments. I'm putting 4 roses on each segment, so that's 20 flowers. I've got ten made and ten to go, though I don't think I have enough of the variegated lavender yarn for the last one. Will have to improvise something. Then I can get it in the mail to Grandma.

Then today's newscycle pissed me off enough that I posted a WIP shot of my epic project, my 15" Statue of Liberty. I'm still awaiting lightweight yarn so I can make her robes that actually drape. Also a superhero cape.

In sum, yarning is coping.

(308) Avengers: Age of Ultron

Jul. 26th, 2017 10:14 pm
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(308) The Avengers: Age of Ultron
→ Tony Stark, Natasha Romanoff, Steve Rogers, Bruce Banner, Clint Barton, Wanda Maximoff, Thor, Maria Hill

Previews;


OVER HERE at [community profile] megascopes

Jerry update

Jul. 26th, 2017 10:38 am
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It's been a week today since Jerry's surgery. She came home from the hospital last Thursday, with a cone and bandages and shaved spots all over! They told me they'd shave her belly, but she was also shaved halfway up her sides, and around each leg (for IVs), and around her backside.

The first few days were pretty rough. They'd told me she'd have diarrhea for a week or two after the surgery, as her body adjusted to not having a colon, so I was expecting that, but not to the extent that she did! She was unable to control where or when most of the time, so I was constantly cleaning up after her. Plus, she lives in my bedroom, and sleeps on my bed, so my bed was a huge mess. I've been washing sheets and blankets daily. She had a pain med that was given every 8 hours, and an antibiotic that was every 12 hours with food. I was giving her meds at 8 AM, 4 PM, 8 PM, and midnight every day.

(When I went to give her the first dose of the pain med the next morning after I brought her home, I discovered that the change in air pressure in bringing it up the mountain from LA had caused the bottle to leak and all the med dribbled out. Brief panic while I sorted getting the records faxed up to my local vet from LA so the local vet could fill another prescription for me. Crisis averted!)

I was supposed to keep the cone on her until the stitches came out, except for brief periods while I was there to watch her, but she had a bandage over her stitches and she showed no interest in it at all, so I left the cone off, and she hasn't bothered about the stitches at all, even after the bandage came off. So at least she was able to avoid that indignity.

Biggest problem at first was that she wouldn't eat or drink. I was giving her sub-Q fluids daily, and I was able to force-feed a bit of food into her by syringe, so she was okay, but it wasn't fun for either of us. Saturday, I tried to call the hospital in LA for advice, but got stuck in a loop of phone tag with the vet tech, and then the surgeon, while the receptionists kept telling me "Just bring her in!" to which I'd reply, "I'm over 100 miles away, I'm not going to 'just bring her in', I want to talk to somebody!" I ended up taking her to my local vet, who checked her over and said she looked pretty good, and gave me some anti-nausea and appetite stimulant meds to give her, which helped quite a bit, and she finally started eating on her own.

Monday was her last day on the pain and antibiotic meds, and I think just not having to have all that medicine shoved into her numerous times a day has improved her mood and appetite quite a bit! All day yesterday, she purred up a storm whenever I went in to see her, and she was eating almost a normal amount. Her diarrhea has improved to where she's getting into or close to the box every time, and she doesn't seem to be in any distress. I'm still changing the sheets every day, but at this point it's just a few dribbles and wet footprints.

Jerry has a bite to eat

Not a great photo, but I was so happy to see her eating, I had to take a picture.

Next week she'll get her stitches out. The surgeon said it would be fine to have my local vet do it here, so she won't have to go to LA again, which I'm sure we're both glad about. Her diarrhea should continue to improve over the next week or so. Also, the liver masses and colon both tested benign, so she won't require any further surgeries. All we have to do now is rest and recuperate.
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A reader writes:

We use an internal messaging service at work that allows people to make and recall emojis by writing anything into parentheses. For example, if I designed an emoji of my face, uploaded it and called it “Tina,” anyone in the company could type “Tina” and that emoji would come up. It’s generally great and fun and collaborative.

One issue is there’s a dancing frog which shares its likeness with Pepe the alt right frog. Pepe is, obviously, a totem that is synonymous with hate speech. Unfortunately my HR rep in the office has taken to using this dancing frog in her office correspondence. All the f’ing time. I am confident she doesn’t know what Pepe is or represents, as she is not particularly culturally up to date. She thinks it’s just a celebratory dancing frog. Our company, however, is a very internet savvy digital media agency so EVERYONE ELSE knows exactly what it is.

I really am uncomfortable when she uses the Pepe, as it seriously dampers conversations. I want to let her know but I don’t want her to think I’m being condescending or pretentious. I also don’t want her to think it is a political thing as I am outspokenly against the current administration and I’m not confident that she feels the same. It’s a hate symbol thing. I would go to HR with it, but she is HR.

I’m seriously baffled by what to do, though it may seem trivial.

Why on earth is no one else in your office speaking up and telling her?

This doesn’t have to be complicated.

It would actually be more awkward if she did know the story behind the symbol — although speaking up about it would still be the right thing to do (even more so, in fact).

But in this case, since she genuinely doesn’t know, you’ll be filling her in on something that a reasonable person would be grateful to know. And even if she’s not a reasonable person, it’s still a valid thing for you to point out.

You could just say this: “I’m pretty sure that you don’t realize that that dancing frog emoji is identical to a symbol that has become associated with racism, anti-semitism, and other hate speech. I know that’s not how you’re intending it, but given that it’s become so strongly associated with those things, I figured you wouldn’t want to keep sending it out in company correspondence!”

If she seems skeptical, you could add, “The Anti-Defamation League added it to its database of hate symbols last year.”

That should be enough to take care of it. But if for some reason it isn’t, the next time she sends something out with the frog on it, I’d hope you could get others on your staff to add their voices to yours too, so that the chorus of people telling her to knock it off is louder.

my HR rep keeps using a Pepe the Frog emoji was originally published by Alison Green on Ask a Manager.

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So on Monday the realtor I've been working with sent me 10 listings to choose from and I said I liked five, and so I'm seeing 2 out of those five tomorrow evening (the two most expensive and also the two I was least interested in. funny how that works out. the one that was my fave accepted an offer yesterday and is thus off the market now. Sigh. eta: and there goes my second fave, with an accepted offer. but I'm seeing the last one on Saturday, so there's hope! I like each of these three, just not as much as I liked the other two and also they each have one drawback or another, I guess./eta). I'm trying to keep an open mind, but I'd really like to see the two I like more before I have to make any decisions.

How can it only be Wednesday? Yesterday felt like it was 8 days long in and of itself. Sigh.

What I've just finished
Nothing.

What I'm reading now
Still on Abaddon's Gate. I like it but not as much as the first two books so it's taking me longer to read (the fact that I haven't been getting a seat on the train hasn't helped). I feel like the new characters are not nearly as interesting as Avasarala and Bobbie, though I like Anna and Bull just fine. Melba, otoh... On the plus side, spoilers ) I'm about a hundred pages from the end so I'm guessing there's still some excitement to come.

What I'm reading next
Regardless, I did pick up the next book - Cibola Burn - because I do want to see what happens next. I just also wish we got the POV from the others on the Roci instead of all Holden all the time there.

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Jul. 26th, 2017 02:04 pm
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As the date for closing on the house rapidly approaches (still on track, monday!) the realtor and the loan officer and I are all starting to use increasingly short, emoji and exclamation point filled emails back and forth.

"Hi! Please sign and return this page as soon as possible!! [happy emoji]"
"Page attached!! [excited emoji]"
"Got it, thank you!!!"
"Yay!!!!"

I think we're all a little delirious at this point. We might be down to nothing but emojis and strings of !!!!!!!!! by monday.
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A reader writes:

I work at a university. My boss has an almost-5-year-old son, and she brings him into the office … a lot. I work in an open bullpen, so even when he’s in her office, he’s usually making noise or listening to an iPad at a loud volume, when he’s not running around the office.

Today, however, as I was standing and talking to her and another colleague, her son wandered up and punched me in the groin. My boss immediately forced him to apologize and then let him go to wander off and “explore” the rest of the office and picked back up in the conversation like nothing happened.

I also know that there are hours at work when she has a FaceTime connection between her work iPad and the one they have at home as a sort of remote babysitter. She doesn’t mute it or turn the volume down when someone comes into the office to discuss work items.

I stopped in at HR, and the university doesn’t have a specific policy about children at the office other than “use discretion,” but the HR director wasn’t at all surprised to hear that my boss had been bringing in her kid (indeed, she nailed it right on the head after I asked about the policy and asked for further info). Is there anything I should or shouldn’t be doing to either in terms of documenting what’s happening or better ways to handle what’s going on?

I answer this question — and four others — over at Inc. today, where I’m revisiting letters that have been buried in the archives here from years ago (and sometimes updating/expanding my answers to them). You can read it here.

Other questions I’m answering there today include:

  • Explaining to staff that they need to let me know if they’re out of the office
  • Should I tell my competition that we’re up for the same job?
  • What should I wear when meeting about volunteer opportunities?
  • How can I thank my boss for hiring my friend?

my boss’s kid punched me in the groin was originally published by Alison Green on Ask a Manager.

Cloud Stories

Jul. 26th, 2017 09:29 am
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Hi. Frequent lurker, occasional poster. My new book CLOUD STORIES goes on sale in better comic book stores around the USA today so I thought I should make a post here about it. It's a collection of short comics stories loosely organized around the topic of clouds. They vary in subject and tone from horror to slapstick comedy, high fantasy to memoir. I think it's pretty good!

Cloud Stories Cover 12 pages from a 216 page book )
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The Toast makes a one-day-only return appearance today! "Link Roundup!"

Yesterday [dreamwidth.org profile] bluemeridian posted a batch of MCU and Wonder Woman recs.

"‘Wrath of Khan’ Returning to Theaters for 35th Anniversary".

"Orbit Turns 10: Take a Look at a Decade of Milestones". [The B&N Sci-Fi and Fantasy Blog]

Via [dreamwidth.org profile] misbegotten, the Cincinnati Zoo has successfully reunited Fiona-the-hop with both of her parents. Adorable hippo pictures ahoy!

From 2014, but via Twitter today: "BitchTapes: American Protest Music". [Bitch Media]

"The Fourth Messenger at the 2017 New York Musical Festival". [ViennaTeng.com] (Includes purchase links for the soundtrack and script.) [ETA: Refers to a concluded run, not an upcoming one.]

On Atlas Obscura:

--"NASA Just Released Hundreds of Historic Space and Aviation Videos".

--"These Endangered Pygmy Rabbits Survived a Wildfire by Heading Underground".

--"Why It Took Scientists So Long to Figure Out Where Babies Come From: Human conception was still basically a total mystery until as recently as 1875".

--"The Odor ‘Wheel’ Decoding the Smell of Old Books".

--"The Dormouse-Fattening Jars of Ancient Rome".

--"People in 1920s Berlin Nightclubs Flirted via Pneumatic Tubes".

--"Found: Never-Developed Photos of Mount St. Helens Erupting".

--"These Maps Reveal the Hidden Structures of ‘Choose Your Own Adventure’ Books".



On Mental Floss:

--"The Golden Girls Are Starring in Their Own Version of Clue".

--"This Illustrated Periodic Table Shows How We Regularly Interact With Each Element".

Firefly

Jul. 26th, 2017 10:29 am
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Pisces + Dragon = Firefly

firefly
PRIMAL ZODIAC SIGN OF FIREFLY
http://www.primalastrology.com/primal-zodiac-by-combination.html

An intriguing combination of the sensitive and docile Pisces and the proud, powerful Dragon, one would expect those born under the sign of the Firefly to be more of a contradiction. In most cases, however, these two very different sets of personality traits work quite well together.

Firefly is the sign of the idealist. Creative, intuitive, and mysterious, Fireflies are passionate about what they believe in. They try hard to be optimists who want to see the world as a happy place where good things are supposed to happen to good people. They are warm and loyal friends, and will do anything to help a friend or family member in need. At the same time, they expect this loyalty to be returned and have little problem demanding it. Above all things, Fireflies want to be loved and admired.Read more... )
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What I read

Finished Moonbreaker.

A novella by Heather Rose Jones, Three Nights at the Opera (2014), prequel to Daughter of Mystery.

There was indeed a new Catherine Fox, Realms of Glory, delivered to my Kobo well in time to beguile my journeyings. Very good.

Alex Hall, Glitterland (2013): m/m contemporary romance, which was an absolute page-turner and I will even give it a degree of pass on the phonetic rendering of Estuarine speech, on the grounds that this might be down to the first-person narrator's attempt to depict Difference.

Charlie Jane Anders, All the Birds in the Sky (2016): I had a bit of a problem with the rather gender-stereotypical allocation of science vs magic, and also with the way that both of them, in particular Patricia, are shown as coming to their powers as a result of familial dysfunction and school bullying (are US high schools really quite so generally toxic as literature would have me believe?), which is not that dissimilar in its rather Spartan overtones to the ethos of the military school to which Laurence is briefly sent. But I read on.

Helene Wecker, The Golem and the Djinni (2013) - there were parts where I thought this was a bit slow, and possibly about showing off the author's research, but then it all came together with all the threads meshing at the end.

On the go

The end is almost in sight with Prince of Tricksters. Also continuing with Rejected Essays and Buried Thoughts, as and when.

Up next

Well, I have lately had delivered to my Kobo Kate Elliott's Buried Heart (2017), conclusion (?) to the Court of Fives series. But I've also, finally, received Monica Ferris's cozy mystery, Knit Your Own Murder (2016), at last a) out in paperback and b) actually in the mailer received from the seller.

my coworker won’t stop complaining

Jul. 26th, 2017 02:59 pm
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A reader writes:

We’ve recently had a lot of budget cuts at work, leading to a staff restructuring … translation: everyone was made redundant and forced to re-apply for the jobs that were left. Some people lost their jobs, some people ended up with reduced hours/pay, and some actually did well out of it, getting a better job than the one they had before. I’m lucky enough to be in the third camp – although I’ve only been working there for a couple of years, I interviewed very well and was promoted from a part-time position to full-time.

Things have settled down again now after what was obviously a difficult and stressful time for everyone, but I’m having a problem with a certain colleague, “Bob.”

Bob has worked at this place for over 20 years, was in a full-time position and went down to a part-time one, also losing his former senior job title and being reduced to the same level as me. Bob was understandably NOT happy about this. Of course I can sympathize with how hard it must be for him, but now all Bob does, day in and day out, is complain. He complains about how the whole restructure wasn’t fair (not exactly something I’m thrilled to hear, given that I actually did well out of it on what I believe to be my own merit), he complains about how all his years of expertise are being wasted, and he complains how management don’t listen to him (when from what I’ve seen, they’ve been incredibly supportive of everyone and made the best of a terrible situation).

Most of all, he complains to ME, because we’re friends and he sees me as a sympathetic ear. The problem is that my sympathy is fast running out. It’s been MONTHS now, and everyone else has settled in to make the best of their situation, but Bob just can’t seem to let it go and accept what’s happened. The moment he’s alone with me he starts moaning about how awful everything is for him. I can’t get through a single day without him reminding me repeatedly just how long he’s worked here and how much he knows about every aspect of the company (points that feel particularly barbed to me as the workplace’s most recent employee) and how he feels personally insulted by his new role (again, not really what I want to hear given it’s the same job that I have!).

I like Bob. I’ve known him since I’ve worked here as a smart, capable and friendly guy, and I hate to see him so upset over this. But his constant bitching and moaning is really starting to get me down, especially when it often comes across (unintentionally, I’m sure) as implicit contempt for my own success and usefulness as an employee when compared to him.

It’s turned into his one and only topic of conversation, and I’m starting to dread working with him. From hints he’s dropped, I think management might already have had a quiet word with him about this attitude, but all that’s done is given him one more thing to complain about! His long monologues are now usually capped with “…but of course I’m not allowed to say that” or “…but you didn’t hear that from me.”

I don’t want to go to management myself about it because I really don’t want to get him into trouble. As a friend, I like him and I feel sorry for the blow to his pride he’s suffered. As a colleague, I really just want him to shut up already and get on with our work. I was hoping his bitterness would naturally die down after a while, but it only seems to be getting worse. Any ideas for how to cope with this, or at least try and make it more bearable?

I wrote back and asked: “What do you normally say/do when he’s complaining?”

I have to admit usually I just kind of nod along sympathetically and try not to say too much. He supplies a good 90% of the conversation himself, and I really don’t know what TO say. I don’t want to offend or upset him by telling him outright to just get over it already and accept that things have changed, but I don’t really agree with most of what he says either. So I end up making a lot of “mmhmm” kind of noises.

Mostly I try to avoid the subject of work-related anything when I engage with him, and when we’re talking about other stuff we get along just fine. But it seems like every day some new thing happens to set him off on a rant again. He’s really still finding it impossible to adjust to his new role and the way the workplace has changed, and — short of having a word with our manager, which seems really harsh and also kind of pointless since I’m pretty sure she’s already more than aware of his attitude — I don’t know how to help him?

Well, the nodding sympathetically and the “mmhmm” noises have probably signaled to him that you’re a sympathetic audience.

I totally get the impulse that’s led you there — you want to be kind, and it’s awkward to say what you’re really thinking while he rants.

And really, whether you’re sympathetic or not, he does need to wrap this up and get back to work. Even with 100% legitimate complaints, there’s only so long that you can expect people around you — including friends — to listen sympathetically. At some point, even people who have been legitimately wronged need to figure out if they can live reasonably contentedly with the situation or if they’re going to do something about it, and at some point it’s no longer cool to keep venting to friends about it.

And whatever that timeframe is, it’s shorter when you’re venting to coworkers, because they’re much more of a captive audience.

But Bob is apparently not realizing this on his own, so it’s going to fall to you to set boundaries.

Some things you can try in the moment:

* “You’ve seemed really unhappy for a while. What are you going to do about it?” (This can sometimes be useful in nudging people away from venting and toward action. And if it doesn’t nudge them toward action, it can at least make you an unsatisfying person to vent to if you say it a lot.)

* “I know you feel like you got a raw deal, and I’m sorry that happened. At this point, how do you want to move forward?” (Same here.)

* “Hmmm. From my perspective, management has actually been pretty good about making the best of a hard situation. I think we just see this differently.” (If you say this a couple of times, you may become a lot less appealing to vent to.)

But you also might need to have a bigger-picture conversation with him. For example:

* “Can I be honest with you? You seem really unhappy, and I understand why. But at this point, it’s been months and I think you need to figure out if you can stay here reasonably happily or if you need to make a change. I support you in whatever you decide. But I can’t keep rehashing it anymore— it’s making work harder for me to be staying so mired in these issues. For my own mental health, I can’t be the person you vent to anymore.”

Even after that conversation, he might keep venting to you, just out of habit, so you’ll need to be prepared to hold firm on that boundary. If it starts up again after this conversation, say something like, “Hey, I’m sorry — like I said before, I can’t be your sounding board on this stuff anymore. Thanks for understanding.”

Beyond that, you ended your note by asking how to help him. I actually think this approach is the most helpful thing you can do for him. He may not realize how bad his complaining has become, and by setting boundaries like this, you might nudge him toward realizing that it’s gone way beyond a useful point. But even if he doesn’t find this particularly helpful, that’s okay. It’s not your job to solve this for him. You’ve already gone way beyond the call of friendship duty in listening sympathetically for months. It’s okay to draw a line and insist on getting back to work.

my coworker won’t stop complaining was originally published by Alison Green on Ask a Manager.

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Posted by JenniferP

Dear Captain Awkward,

What do you do if your significant other thinks that you will go no where with your dream?

My boyfriend is a well known, local photographer. He does mainly fashion photo-shoots and is honestly, very talented at what he does.

I’m newly, discovering modeling. I had tried it before when I was younger; but, it didn’t workout since I had acne. I didn’t get my face cleared until I was almost 30 (ancient in modeling years). But I enjoy my hobby. I have discovered this new passion of mine. Walking on the runway feels great and I get a lot of compliments on my walk! People want to book me for shows, work with me in photos and I even try their new designs! Its very exciting.

I even came up with a concept for a photo-shoot. I made a head-piece, found a makeup artist, made sure to communicate how I want the lighting and am going to see my idea come into fruition. I would have never believed, I could bring that many people together to make an image. But, I can!

It all sounds great… but, my boyfriend doesn’t believe I’ll go anywhere. He’s made so many comments about the photos we’ve done together. He’s literally told me, “You’re not Naomi Campbell,” and he’s even tried to hide a photo-shoot he was doing with a couple of models from California… saying, “You would only be jealous of their careers.” And then invited me to hold the lights.

I have no idea what to do. I told him, I’m not jealous of anyone, but the fact that he got nervous about telling me was odd. I honestly, thought it was because he was going to flirt with them; not because “You’ll be jealous of their careers.”

I’m not sure where he would get a comment like that in the first place? And I’m tired of him trying to put me down with his harsh criticism. He told me, he would say things like that, because he works in a an industry where its normal for people to say those things… However, he’s had a TON of other photo-shoots and has never told anyone else these things? I guess, I don’t understand.

I know, he doesn’t believe I will walk in New York Fashion Week. He’s reminded me that I’m 5’7″, on a daily basis, saying he’s just giving me a “Realistic perspective.” But I never asked him. I also, didn’t even have that as a goal… I just, honestly like what I’m doing. Its inspired me to create things, to try new adventures and meet new people.

My heart is kind of broken because he’s the one person, I thought, would believe in me. Or at least, be proud of me…. instead, all I get is “You’re not Naomi Campbell.”

I told him he could no longer take my photos. We can no longer work together. And I have no time to doubt myself. I work a full-time day job. I have shows booked until November and I want to plan more things! There should be no time wasted on being self-conscious.

We have talked about this issue a lot over the last few days and we worked out some resolutions we are both happy with; along with boundaries of not working together anymore…

But there is still this pain, knowing that he doesn’t believe I can do this. I tell myself, I never needed anyone before, why would I still want his approval?

What should I do?

Half of me, thinks that we can still be together despite this. Because I am quite old, it’s too late to walk the New York runways. I wouldn’t even qualify for them at my height. He has a point…

But there is that other part of me, that still wants to continue. That never wants to place a ceiling on my passion… And that part, is extremely hurt, the love of my life wants to give me a “reality check.”

Thanks in Advance,

The Independent Model

Dear Independent Model,

If you want to talk “reality checks” I checked with Reality and it said “Hey, you’re already a model!”

You’re already a model. You are creating photo shoots. You are walking runways. You are being booked for work. You are already doing it. You have a gorgeous attitude about the work and the adventure of meeting new people and making beautiful images. You have me kind of dying to see your photos because you sound so positive and cool and I want to see the face of the person who makes me feel this excited reading about her work! Just from your letter I can tell that you are stunning and striking and that people want to be around you.

Your boyfriend is right about what people sometimes say about and to models in the fashion industry. In a student film I made long ago there is a scene where two women pick apart the appearance of a third (the scene starts around 5:40). The actresses who play the stylists both worked as models a lot and their dialogue was improvised 100% out of things people have said to them in real life. They were expected to stand there and not react because “professionalism.” It’s shitty and hurtful and objectifying, and just because it happens in real life doesn’t mean you have to internalize and live it like it’s the truest thing about you. And it doesn’t mean that your boyfriend has to contribute to it, to participate in it. Is this how he talks to all the models he knows? Or does he save it all for you, the woman he supposedly loves? Either way, misogyny and cruelty are not a good look, dude.

It’s okay to not collaborate with your romantic parter even if you are in the same field. It’s actually smart to put boundaries around that sometimes. I need my husband and I to to love each other even if we never make another movie or write another word, or even if we make stuff that’s terrible. If the relationship only goes well when the work goes well, then there’s a fear that if the work goes badly it will make the relationship go badly. So, it’s okay to decide not to cross the streams of work and also smart for you to seek out other photographers. That’s not even the problem here.

The problem is that I think his comments about you being jealous of other people’s careers are him projecting all over the place. He’s jealous of other photographers and their careers. He’s jealous of you, for launching into the space he thought was his alone, the space where he has authority and gets to pretend he’s a gatekeeper of some sort, the space where he thought his giant lens gave him power to decide what’s beautiful enough. He’s jealous of you for blowing the doors off the illusion that he’s some sort of tastemaker. He’s jealous of you for not accepting what he thought were the rules of your industry. He’s jealous of you because you’ve already surpassed his expectations and he can tell that you are about to surpass him. He’s jealous of you because you’re not jealous when he works with other models, and it would be cool if that made you sort of jealous, because it would make him feel powerful. He’s jealous of you for being braver than he is, and instead of sitting with that discomfort and deciding, whoa, my girlfriend is AWESOME, he’s chosen the path of “Well, don’t get your hopes up, babe.

Go ahead and get your hopes up, lovely Letter Writer. Get your hopes up about creating new work and expressing yourself and enjoying what you do for as long as you want to do it. And get your hopes all the way up about finding a partner who will celebrate you and believe in you. Your boyfriend is not that guy. He is a small man with a limited vision and a smaller heart. You, on the other hand, are a g.d. Valkyrie. It’s never going to work, I’m sorry. You’ll never be able to make yourself small enough to fit into the box he thinks is marked “girlfriend.” You’ve already outgrown it, and him.

Break up. Be sad for a while. Keep going with your dream. Keep doing your work. The world holds all the “reality checks” and rejection and doubt and failure any of us will ever need. We don’t actually need any of that from people who say they love us.

Edited to Add Because I Like Visual Aids:

This is the incomparable Stanley Tucci playing Paul Child, Julia Child’s husband in the movie Julie & Julia. He’s looking at his wife, who found her passion quite late in life. He’s wearing a giant heart on his jacket and toasting her at a Valentine’s Day celebration. Look at how he looks at her:

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Image description: Stanley Tucci as Paul Child in Julie & Julia. He’s wearing glasses and a groovy striped tie and a paper heart pinned to his jacket and holding a glass of champagne and his eyes are full of love and pride.

THAT’S how we look at the people we love when they shine at doing the thing they love. Like we might explode from how proud and excited we are. Imagine this guy saying “I don’t know, television’s a really hard field, and you’re no Grace Kelly.” Imagine the world where he said that and where Julia let that stop her. Who wants to live in that shitty world? Not me. Not you. Not ever.

 


Wednesday Reading

Jul. 26th, 2017 09:27 am
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I did a fair amount of reading over the weekend, and early this week.

Court of Fives by Kate Elliott was too nerve-wracking and painful for me to read right now; I finished it, but the sequels will definitely have to wait. The race and class issues were very well-depicted, I thought, and the suspense was excellent. I am just too stressed about the world to handle this sort of thing in fiction right now.

The Furthest Station by Ben Aaronovitch was, alas, much shorter than I had hoped. Abigail was so great! I want all the Abigail stories!!!

I was happily surprised that Apprentice in Death by J.D. Robb, 43rd in the series, was much better than several of the previous volumes. There were a lot of twists and barriers to solving the mystery, capturing the perpetrators, and bringing them to justice, and remarkably little checking in with the huge recurring cast, which can become tedious. I read this partly because mysteries are comforting (justice wins!) and partly for purposes of analysis. I need to write down notes on its structure and character types and things like that.
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Finally got around to see Spider-Man: Homecoming yesterday - my cinema-going tends to be Mondays and Tuesdays, because the local cinema has a money-off scheme those days, even if it means I often end up in almost-empty screens in the middle of the day. Desperately hoping at the moment that Atomic Blonde is still going to be showing when I get back, as it opens this weekend and I'm going away.

Anyway, back to your friendly neighbourhood wallcrawler. I'd gone into this movie knowing that it wasn't yet another origin story (yay for that, because who doesn't know how Spider-Man got his powers by now?) but also concerned at the amount of RDJ the posters and trailers suggested. Anyway, in general terms I enjoyed it and it just about managed not to be an Iron Man movie instead, but it was close at times.

One of the things I really liked was that the main villain character was wearing an outfit that was clearly a reference to the costume he wears in the comics I remember reading when I was a teenager. Is it ironic that Michael Keaton has gone from being Batman to a supervillain and actually does the latter much more convincingly? Not that Batman isn't mostly just one or two steps away from that anyway, I guess...

We also almost got high school aged actors playing high school students - this is Hollywood high school, so they were 20-21 (except for one actress who's 27 and pretty much looks it imho). I always think it's funny because, through the fencing club, I spend a bit of time with teenage lads in particular and the vast majority do not look anything like Hollywood high school.

I think it also makes it comfortably into my MCU top 5 (pending, of course, the arrival of Black Panther next year):

1. Captain America: Winter Soldier
2. Iron Man 3
3. Captain America: The First Avenger
4. Spider-Man: Homecoming
5. Thor

So, how about you folks? Anyone else seen it? What's your MCU top 5?

Daily Happiness

Jul. 26th, 2017 02:04 am
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1. I posted the final chapter of Tera Girl! I feel really good about getting that finished.

2. It was busy at work today and two people called out sick, but we had enough other people to cover and I didn't end up needing to stay as long as I thought I might (in fact, I got out of there pretty much on time).

3. We started watching Crazy Ex-Girlfriend tonight. There's definitely a lot of cringey embarrassing situations, which are kind of hard to watch, but overall I'm enjoying it.

4. We went to DK's for doughnuts tonight. They had a new mango doughnut that was super tasty (though it's one of their pricey ones, so I doubt I'll get it again).

5. Jasper feet!

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Jul. 26th, 2017 08:59 am
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Happy birthday, [personal profile] el_staplador and [personal profile] mrissa!
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[personal profile] mirabile, I received your Get Well Soon flowers -- thank you so much! They cheered me up a lot today on my last day of recuperating at home, and will continue to do so at night.



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Also, y'all, I love this show, especially this season: Killjoys up to & including 3x04 ''The Lion, The Witch, and the Warlords'' )

Scanlations: Tera Girl ch. 6

Jul. 25th, 2017 10:21 pm
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This is it, guys, the final chapter of Tera Girl! The zip also includes the bonus chapter Tera Kids, plus eight pages of gag comics and author talk from the end of the volume. If you are only interested in the Tera Girl story, then this zip file completes it. If you are also interested in the unrelated one-shot MKK Girl that was also included in the volume, then keep your eyes peeled, as I will be posting it sometime it the next couple months.



Title: Tera Girl
Original Title: 寺ガール (Tera Girl)
Author: Mizusawa Megumi
Publisher: Ribon Mascot Comics Cookie
Genre: Shoujo
Status in Japan: 3 volumes, complete
Scanlator: Megchan's Scanlations feat. Migeru
Scanlation Status: Ongoing
More Info: Baka Updates

Summary: When your father is a Buddhist priest and your home is a temple, life can be complicated. For Satoru, Hikari, and Ogami, the thought of who will inherit the temple and take over when their father gets old is always in the back of their minds, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Because Hikari loves the temple so much, it's been all but decided that when she grows up, she'll marry someone who can take over from her father, but when she falls for someone completely unsuitable, all three sisters find themselves re-examining their assumptions.

Chapter summary: Hika is torn between her loyalty to the temple and her feelings for Okura-kun. Also includes a bonus chapter about Hika and her sisters when they were kids.



Chapter 6: Feast of Lanterns
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Posted by JenniferP

Dear Captain Awkward,

Recently, my husband and I have been talking about taking a step to be more open in our relationship. We had made attempts to do this before, but we sort of jumped in without enough discussion and then had to pull back because if something hadn’t been explicitly outlined for him as being okay, his default was that it was and he would be willing to soldier forward regardless. It was a little more of a “better to seek forgiveness than ask permission” kind of a situation and I kiboshed that because I need boundaries to feel secure. Anyway, we have been talking and talking and talking and someone sparked his interest and so we talked about baby-stepping our way back into this situation with much clearer boundaries and I felt totally okay with it – until recently.

So this woman, I will call her Pandora, came over to our house for dinner and things were fine until she and my husband started to have some weird and ambiguous conversation about an appointment she had the next morning bright and early. This goes on for a while, so finally I was like “Hey! I’m in the room and I feel like you’re having a conversation around me and it is making me uncomfortable! What are you talking about?”, at which point, Pandora goes “Oh well I have a lot of drama going on in my life right now and it is just best that I keep some things vaulted.” Which like, okay, but then also don’t vaguely drama dump in front of me in my living room.
Anyway, she left and then my husband goes “You want to know what that was about?” and I said “yes!” because of course I do when baited with juicy morsels of gossip. Well it turns out that Pandora has been fooling around with this one particular couple when they do MDMA and now has started hooking up with the dude half of the couple without the woman’s knowledge. In fact, the appointment she kept referring to was a six am visit from this dude, who was going to hook up her secretly on his way to work.

For context, this info was dropped on me at close to 2 in the morning and I had work the next day, so I didn’t say anything in the moment, but I spent the whole next day thinking about it and it seriously made me annoyed and upset. Like do I think her morning secret hookup dude takes a large share of the blame for stepping outside his primary relationship as he is the committed person? Yes. But it genuinely bothers me that she was intimate with this woman, knew exactly what the woman’s boundaries were and what the boundaries within the primary relationship were, and then decided to go there anyway. To me, sex isn’t just something that happens, it’s something that you choose to make happen and they chose against the wishes of the other person involved which is sketchy as fuck. That to me shows a huge sign of disrespect and I told my husband that it really made me upset and uncomfortable to bring this person into our lives in an intimate way. My reasoning was that if she is so willing to do this to someone she has had sex with, I don’t see what would stop her from doing the same to me, a casual acquaintance.

At this point, he says that they have had multiple boundary talks and she has assured him this won’t be an issue to which I think my exact response was COME ON, MAN! Also, during this conversation, he insisted on trying to contextualize her decision in her other relationship by saying things like “We have no idea what that other primary relationship is like!” and then he also bomb-dropped that this couple is very close friends with some other very good friends of mine, so I can’t talk to them about this because they could probably figure out who I was talking about via context clues, and he said that I can’t tell Pandora I know because she made him promise not to tell anyone and it would implode his friendship with her if she found out she broke his promise as she would be really embarrassed. I again told him that if she is sneaking around with this dude, whatever the current status of the other primary relationship is, they know it is not kosher and that it actually really bothers me that this early in the game she told him to keep secrets from me which, I think, are important contextually. Also, I seriously can’t help but wonder about not only the emotional healthiness of this situation, but the physical health as well. Like I can’t really imagine a situation where she’s like “Yeah, the guy I am also seeing is sneaking around behind his partner’s back and is kind of a cheating scumbag, but he’s really fucking diligent with condoms!”?

Anyway, I told him I am not comfortable with him taking things any further with her in light of these things and he responded by saying that he feels like she has explained things to him to his satisfaction and that because he has self-control and he is a good judge of character that he thinks that should be satisfactory in in this situation. If I have concerns about this situation, instead of unfairly shutting it down and taking this away from him, I should trust him, or, I am still feeling uncertain, I can have a conversation with her directly about boundaries, however I would have to do so without mentioning I know about her cheating scenario.

This whole situation bums me the fuck out because I feel like Pandora soiled all of it with her bad relationship mojo. I mean I am not against him seeing someone else – that’s totally fine with someone who is honest and above board with all sexual partners! -I am against this particular boundary breaking person and he keeps harping on the fact that they have an emotional connection and I am taking this away from him even though things haven’t gotten fully physical between them yet.

So I guess my question is – what the fuck do I do here? At the end of our last conversation, I agreed that we would put a pin in things on that front right now, but like, with the way things are now, I cannot imagine what scenario would ever make me feel comfortable enough to pull the pin out. (Maybe if she broke things off with the downlow dude and stopped pulling sketchy shit?) I mean how can I possibly trust this person? I feel seriously backed into a corner here.

Yours sincerely,
Sick Of Dealing With Pandora’s Box

Dear Sick of Dealing,

You feel backed into a corner because you have been backed into a corner.

You confronted the weird behavior at that awful-sounding dinner party, you trusted your (excellent) instincts and gathered your thoughts and then told your husband “Hey, Pandora is telling you who she is, which is someone who does not honor agreements around sex. I am not cool with that!” You have not been vague or unclear or unreasonable. You have been a rock star of boundaries and keen observations about the likelihood of emotional fallout and poor condom diligence.

Is there a version of ethical fun cool open relationships that allows for you to say this?

Look, I deeply dislike Pandora and from what I’ve seen she is a shitty friend, lover, and dinner guest. I wouldn’t trust her to water my plants when I’m out of town or drop a letter in the mail on her way to the bus stop. My strong preference is that she is nowhere near our lives from this moment onward. But clearly you want to fuck this person real bad, so please go get it out of your system with a minimum of fuss, a maximum of safer sex precautions, and zero amount of making me sit through dinner with her ever again or pretending that this is okay with me.

(I imagine you wearing something kind of awesome and dark and voluminous and sweeping dramatically out of the room after delivering this speech. Your eye makeup – if you wear eye makeup – has never looked more perfect than at this moment.)

No?

I like your script better: “COME ON, MAN!”

“BE SERIOUS, BRO.”

Pandora’s “Oh, my private dramatic secret jokes are definitely not designed to make you feel like a weird date-crasher in your own house, teehee, why would you think that?” game at dinner at your place was a classic Mean Girl power move. She cast her and your husband as a sexy team with sexy secrets and you as the one prying into “the vault.” Fun!

Unfortunately for you, your husband the one who is like “Yeah, but her boundaries are good enough for my emotional connection with her my deep desire to have sex with someone I know is probably terrible (but also have you still be cool about this.)” He knew exactly what she was doing with this other couple before that awkward dinner and he still tried to make Pandora happen in your life. He also told you her secret (good, not great, but better than lying more) but now expects you (?) to keep that secret (?) so Pandora won’t be mad at him for telling it(?) and for you (?) to also somehow confront her (?) about her poor boundaries in a way that will make the situation all cool so he can sleep with her?

Am I parsing this correctly? And there was something something about him “being a good judge of character?” Except he brought the “Heyyyyyyyy, I make agreements with people about sex and then break them when it suits me!” lady to your house? And he thinks there is a way forward here?

If you veto Pandora I predict they will either be secretly fucking before the clock strikes August or he will heroically not fuck her while reminding you of his enormous, heroic (so heroic) sacrifice weekly for the rest of 2017. Fun!

I guess my questions are:

  • What’s appealing about trying an open relationship again, right now, with this guy, for you?

That was gonna be a list but actually that’s my whole question. What’s in this whole situation for you? Pandora is clearly looking out for Pandora, so who is looking out for your heart and your comfort level and your health and your right to have informed consent? Who is treating your feelings and (excellent, fully-functioning) instincts with importance and care? Right now it kinda sounds like “Mostly just you” and that sounds…well…the word “lonely” comes to mind.


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It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go…

1. Should it take me this long to write a resume?

I want to draft the perfect resume, but it keeps taking me longer than expected. I’ve made three versions of my resume in the past five months. Every time I make a new one, it takes me about three hours. I create my resume and then I send it to friends/family to look at it. I correct it and send it back to those friends/ family. Everyone has a different comment or things to add. I want a great resume but sometimes it takes me hours just to finish it. And then I have to create another resume for a different job. Am I spending too much time on my resume?

Yes, probably. Three hours isn’t too long, and it’s not a bad idea to have a couple different versions of your resume, but you shouldn’t need to keep doing it over and over. (It’s also smart to have one long master resume that you then shorten for individual jobs you’re applying for, by picking out just the stuff that’s most relevant for that particular job.)

But it sounds like you’re too invested in involving friends and family in the process. It’s fine to get feedback from people, but you should take that feedback with a grain of salt. Different people will have different feedback for you, and it won’t all be useful. In fact, if you send your resume to 10 different people, you’ll probably get a bunch of conflicting advice. And if you’re seeking advice from people who haven’t done serious hiring themselves, they’re not well positioned to give you useful advice anyway. Pick one or two people who have substantial hiring experience and whose judgment you trust, send it to them once, and be done with the process.

Don’t crowdsource this.

2. My manager is enforcing his own sexist dress code

I work on a team with three other people. At the end of last year, our manager and one of my coworkers retired and two new people were hired to replace them. Our new manager is doing something I don’t think is right. My new coworker follows the dress code, but our new manager is constantly commenting about how she is dressed improperly. She dresses the same as women in other departments though. The standard he is using is not the dress code but the religion he follows.

Our other coworkers and I are men and he never says a thing to any of us but he will comment to her that he knee-length skirt should go to her ankles, her elbow-length sleeves need to go to her wrists, or her neck should be covered and not showing. On hot days, my coworkers and I will wear short-sleeved dress shirts under our jackets and we’ll take off our jackets if we don’t have meetings and he doesn’t say anything to us and in fact does the same thing. But he’ll tell my new coworker she needs to cover her arms because it is not “modest” or “proper.” He doesn’t comment when one of our male coworkers bikes to work in a t-shirt and shorts (and changes into a suit before work starts) but my new coworker was told by our manager that if she jogs to work, she has to change before she comes into the building because her workout clothes (shorts and a t-shirt, same as our male co-worker) are not proper and she shouldn’t be wearing them anywhere at all.

This is my coworker’s first job after college and her first time working in an office. I can tell these comments upset her but she doesn’t say anything back to our manager. Is this any of my business? Should I talk to my coworker or our manager about it?

My new coworker does not belong to the same religion as our manager and our work doesn’t have anything to do with any religion or church.

Your new manager shouldn’t be managing anyone. He’s way, way out of line here and he’s subjecting the company to legal liability for harassment and discrimination.

Encourage your coworker to talk to HR. Tell her that what your manager is doing violates the law and that your company would almost definitely put a stop to it if they knew about it. If she doesn’t feel comfortable talking to HR, I hope you’ll do it yourself; there’s no reason that you can’t report what you’re witnessing, and it’s clearly discriminatory.

3. I have to hire my replacement at a much higher salary

I head up the HR team at a medium-sized, fast-growing business. Recently, I accepted an offer to take a new role overseas in the same business, which I’m really excited about.

My problem is about recruiting my replacement. We have a new CEO (who I report directly to) and she wants me to hire the new head of HR, who will be taking my role — same job title, same job description. As background, I was hired into the role two years ago with only three years of experience in the industry, but in my time at the company I’ve grown the team from just me in a standalone role to a team of 10, and implemented everything from scratch — policies, processes, you name it — with very little support. I have consistently received good feedback.

Now, they want to hire someone with a bit more experience (two to three years more than me), which I understand, given where the business is now (it’s about tripled in size since I started). However, the salary they are offering is almost double my current salary. I can’t help but feel insulted, especially after working so hard to get things where they are today, which the new candidate will be walking into as a starting point. I just don’t really feel comfortable interviewing candidates to replace me, knowing they’ll be earning so much more than I have been!

Am I being unreasonable to ask that other managers do this recruitment instead of me?

Well, you’ll look very prima-donna-ish, which isn’t a great thing, especially since you’re staying with the company.

They’re hiring someone with more experience than you, for a job that you came into without a lot of experience. It makes sense that they’d be paying that person more. It also may be a signal about the profile of candidate they’re looking to attract — like maybe someone with more formal training and credentials, or someone with HR experience at a company of this size, or all sorts of other things.

I’d take this as useful data about the market for your field. But don’t refuse to do part of your job; that will look childish and will impact the impression you leave them with.

4. Hitting up references with a sales pitch

I work as a recruiter with a staffing agency. Recently, my company has been putting an emphasis on sales and revamped the recruiter position to include sales as well. I enjoy my job and am willing to adapt (despite my background being HR), but I am very uncomfortable with one of my new duties.

Before we place a candidate, we call two of their references. My company is now asking me to use candidate references as sales leads and when I do a reference check, introduce them to our business. To me, this feels like solicitation and breach of trust between us and the candidates. The candidate gives me the references for one purpose … to check their work history and help them get a job.

I expressed my concern about this to my superiors, and I was offered coaching on how to make these calls in a “non-aggressive” way, but it still seems like a bit of a violation. I offered a compromise and said I would feel more comfortable making these calls if I could get consent from the candidates first and was told that I wasn’t allowed to ask them. I would love to get your thoughts on this.

Eeewww, yeah, this is a breach of trust and is going to be really annoying to everyone you do it too. If I was giving a reference for someone and the reference-checker started trying to pitch me on their services, I’d be pretty angry and quickly cut them off, and then I’d let the candidate know what happened. Your company is going to look terrible to candidates and references alike.

5. My former coworker lied on his resume

Recently I inherited a former colleague’s email archives. While going through the files, I discovered his resume. In addition to a few whoppers where he embellished the work he did in the department, I discovered that he also lied about his title. The title he put indicates that he worked in an entirely different department. I would love to go to his current employer and inform them of this lie, as he was a horrible person to work with, but I won’t. I know people embellish, but this is ridiculous. Do companies check this sort of information when they do a background check? How could this slip through the cracks? Can I expect to hear that he’s been fired shortly (fingers crossed)?

Some companies check this sort of info in background checks and some don’t. Some do reference checks and never think to ask what the person’s title was. Some don’t do much checking at all.

I wouldn’t count on this leading to him being fired. It’s definitely possible that it could, if they find out at some point. But it’s more likely that it’s not going to come out. But who knows, if he’s truly horrible, he could get fired for all sorts of other reasons.

it’s taking me too long to write a resume, boss is enforcing his own sexist dress code, and more was originally published by Alison Green on Ask a Manager.

Killjoys 3x01-3x04

Jul. 25th, 2017 11:19 pm
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This season is a blast so far!

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